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Post by Loser Sat Feb 09, 2013 9:22 pm

This is my first post. I'm very depressed and I feel like my life is spinning out of control. Sad

I used to live in East Asia. Those were the best two years of my life. Plenty of jobs for those like me with a Bachelor's Degree who are willing to teach English to kids. The money wasn't great, but I made a very comfortable living, was able to take a vacation twice a year, and saved up a little money. But I felt teaching wasn't the right career for me, and I wanted to settle down rather than live the flighty expat lifestyle, so I chose to return to the U.S. and change careers.

Seven months later, I have no friends (Google "Seattle Freeze") and my savings have completely run out. If it wasn't for my parents, I would be homeless and hungry.

I did have an almost-unpaid internship for awhile, with a small non-profit organization, but they do not have the funding to hire me or anyone else. I still volunteer there occasionally. Apparently, one internship isn't enough to get a paid job in my field. Even paid internships prefer those with one or more years of experience, and I'm certainly not getting any responses from those. I'm going to take up another volunteer commitment with another non-profit to try to get more experience, but how long to I have to keep this up?

I've lowered my standards and started applying to low wage administrative jobs and the like, because I still need to make money while I volunteer in my field until I get the right amount of experience to get paid for what I want to do. But even most $10/hour administrative jobs want someone with experience. The few low-wage jobs that don't require experience label me as "overqualified" just because I have a (useless) Bachelor's Degree.

The worst part is that at least 4 of the jobs I've applied for, not only never replied to me, but have also been re-posted. It's not even that there are more qualified candidates, they just didn't want to consider me despite the fact that I was 100% qualified according to the job descriptions. I actually re-applied for one of the re-posted jobs, still didn't hear back, then they posted the same job for the third time! Mad This was for a low-wage call center job!

I came very close (it seemed) to getting a short-term temp job, and the hiring manager even told me that I was a good fit, but then I didn't hear anything until I finally contacted the temp agency, who told me that they picked someone else.

If the crappy jobs won't even take me, how will I ever get hired?

I know I'm not perfect. I'm socially awkward (got severely bullied in school as a child and didn't get many chances to socialize with peers), and I'm a terrible public speaker. It seems like employers these days want charismatic, socially-savvy types, even for jobs that don't require facing the public.

I am a decent writer, though. Despite by initial social awkwardness, I do know how to deal with customers through my 4 years experience in customer service. I put a lot of pride and effort into my work. I have an excellent track record of sticking with employers for the long term, even in crappy jobs. But I'm not exceptional, and apparently, nothing short of exceptional is good enough for employers anymore.

Anyway, I've become very depressed lately, and I can hardly find the motivation to get up in the morning, let alone keep applying for jobs. I so sick of putting time and my best efforts into applications, and, rarely, interviews, only to get rejected again and again or, most of the time, never hear back at all. I'm 25 years old and live with my parents, while most other people my age are enjoying independent lives and have successfully gotten their careers off the ground. I feel completely powerless over my situation, like my life is in other people's hands now. I also feel like I'm not good enough to make my own living, especially when people say things like, "No one owes you a living."

I really want to work hard, but no one will give me a chance unless they don't have to give me anything in return! Is it really too much to ask for minimum wage in return for my hard work?

If I hadn't run out of money, I would return to Asia on the next flight. I guess that's the only place where I can make a decent living now. I'm clearly not wanted in here in the good ol' U.S. of A.

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Post by jmainframe Sun Feb 10, 2013 1:08 pm

Hi NON-loser!

If you stick around here long enough, you'll see that you're NOT alone. "They" would have you believe it's your fault, and make you feel alone and isolated. It's NOT your fault. The problem is that OUR LEADERSHIP HAS FAILED US!

That "job" that kept reposting multiple times is nothing more than a phony job opening. It happens all the time now. Companies are posting jobs with no intent of filling them. It's just a way for them to fudge the numbers, to appear as if they're hiring (or trying to hire). Companies that do this need to be reported to your state's Attorney General's office, because that practice is not only unethical, but it's illegal.

You're only 25 and have your whole life ahead of you. Once the inmates who have taken over the asylum are rounded up and put back in their cages where they belong, and more level-headed and competent people get back in charge, things will turn around and you'll get the kind of good-paying, permanent job that you're qualified for and deserve.

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Post by USA Citizen Tue Feb 12, 2013 8:55 pm

See the reply by Back40 on the thread. Much of that thread seems to fit for you as well.
Re: Sick of brick walls.
by Back40 on Thu Feb 07, 2013 10:03 pm
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Post by Springflowers Wed Feb 20, 2013 12:18 am

Maybe you should consider Asia if you are young. There may be a better future there then here, you have already successfully lived there so would not be flying blind. Find an expat community. Can your parents get you a job or know anyone who can give you employment? use those contacts if you do not want to return to Asia.

I was desperate and unemployed and hid the college degree to get factory jobs before. Course they were all temp but I was trying to stay off the street.


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Post by JadeBlue Sat Jun 29, 2013 10:50 pm

I know this is a late response, but I know exactly how you feel. This is what I go through every day. You do all the right things in life, you don't give up, you work hard, and because of when you were born/graduated college, you're punished for the mistakes of those who came before you. It is extremely frustrating, but I continue to live in poverty knowing that this will not be forever. We will have a positive effect on the workforce over the next couple of decades. Hopefully we can prevent others from going through this same thing.


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