Mom's funeral was today

MaryKay wrote:I think we are all the same there TOTHIPA. I think rhi is having those issues as well. I was shopping, to help our granddaughter's mom out last christmas, and I may have shared this with you, but I apologize if I did. I was a Plymouth Meeting Mall, going to Aeropostale, the new favorite of teens, tweens and the almost tweens, on my way in, there was a silver haired woman, gray slacks, flat black shoes, red peacoat and the "required" red plaid scarf (at least it was in my mom's eyes at christmas time), she was shuffling to the door and I swear I almost reached out and grabbed her and said Mom. I knew it wasn't, but I had to run back to the care and sit and have a cry. When I got into the mall, the girl helping me with the sizes for Abbey and her sister touched my arm and said are you okay, I started to babble and tear up and tell her the story, she looked me in the face and said she had the same thing happen just the other day on her way to work, she swore it was her grandmother. So, I think we all have them, like the hair stories, even if the loss makes us sad, we have the memory which is good. Some people don't have that luxury, even if we are temporarily saddened. (I am babbling again).

TOTHIPA and rhi and all who share this, keep those good thoughts close at hand and have a good cry and then a good laugh. We are lucky to have the memories and crying and sadness make us the good people we are. The sadness is the loss of people we love, that makes us good human beings and good daughters. I will always miss that. What keeps me going, is knowing her suffering has ended, as I am sure you feel that way too. Much love to you both. mk

Sad American wrote:I just talked to Rhiannon. She justs wants to be alone today with her thoughts and grief.
Thanks everyone for showing your concern and care...

ricky wrote:Hi:

I have been folowing this saga and offer my condolences. And afraid something like this would happen.

Sad & Rhi......i will try an expain how the system works. Government workers are not really interested in your problems all they want is numbers to put in thir boxes....and when those numbers are correct you get Approved!

So you have to use this computer to find out what numbers they want. Food stamps max income is $1174 a month for a single person...some states its higher

----------------Are you in PA or MD?

So everything from here on out is a MATH problem.

You need to see why you cant get food stamps without kids..Its a federal program. And they have to give you reason in writing and you can appeal that within 10 days.....

Now down to some serious business...who owns the house? Is anything in your name with your mom? deed credit cards loans?

You can get welfare if you own a house.....of course its back to math.....is there any serious equity in the house if so then chances are it would have to be sold.

If you are underwater chances are the bank doesn't want your home so you could wind up like people in Fla not paying their mortage for 3 years and the bank hasnt even started forclosure...So you may not have to pack for a long time.

I hope this helps and is a good start....MATH their figures vs yours...

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Just don't need my caseworker telling me I've gotta start packing up and moving because I have nowhere to go and that would just add more stress.

rhiannonj wrote:Can't afford to get the AC fixed. Thank god the temps are cooler. Mom's social security and navy annuity that was paid Sept. 1 has been debited from our checking account... $2200. I've got about $300 left in the account and if I can't pay my electric bill by next Friday they will shut it off. Have my social services case worker coming over Monday. Hope she can work some miracles.

Sick & Tired wrote:

rhiannonj wrote:Can't afford to get the AC fixed. Thank god the temps are cooler. Mom's social security and navy annuity that was paid Sept. 1 has been debited from our checking account... $2200. I've got about $300 left in the account and if I can't pay my electric bill by next Friday they will shut it off. Have my social services case worker coming over Monday. Hope she can work some miracles.

Was your Mom in the Navy? If so, you should call the nearest Veteran Affairs office. They may help you with some of this. Also see if there is a St.Vincent De Paul or Salvation Army in your area. They may help with utilities also.